tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4113636052418203640.post913981811569796599..comments2014-03-06T14:06:25.585-05:00Comments on Sara Doane: Trying to Make It: For those who are wondering...Sara Doanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00400145666883695300noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4113636052418203640.post-45363451112577337152013-01-28T17:44:47.189-05:002013-01-28T17:44:47.189-05:00Yeah, this is obviously no fun at all, for sure. H...Yeah, this is obviously no fun at all, for sure. Hopefully this post was therapeutic in nature even though it doesn't take away the real pain of being rejected due to flaws in a relationship that two people created for themselves. There were a couple of things I want to shine a flashlight on that I've also learned that you stated. First was the notion of having expectations. I grew up having high expectations and having high ones on me, and I realized over time that the cycle of bitterness is established with the level of your expectations. The more I expect, the more I'm let down, which upsets me/hurts me, my security levels go down or I become more upset at the lack of reconciliation, and as a result I become bitter. Bitterness is one of those feelings that is certainly compact like thawed ground beef. You can get a pretty heavy burger if you squeeze it enough.<br /><br />The other thing I would love to highlight is the fact that you said that the fact that "[you] considered ourselves at our “destination” once we said our “I do’s.” I don't have much to say about this other than that the way you described this was utterly beautiful.<br /><br />Be encouraged that the Lord makes ALL things work together for good. You will gain and have gained so much knowledge out of this experience, and just know that with great knowledge comes great responsibility. It's now your responsibility to share your experience with others so you can help them not have an experience such as the one you've had. <br /><br />livegunn.blogspot.comLive Gunnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01680086234942533557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4113636052418203640.post-35385650995508238952013-01-28T13:17:14.675-05:002013-01-28T13:17:14.675-05:00I know all to well how you're feeling right no...I know all to well how you're feeling right now. I thought the same things about myself. Trying to hang in there and make it right; to the point of looking like a fool because you're the only one in this epic battle to make all the bad go away and just go back to when it was good. It's a desperate feeling mixed with lots of defeat. And there is a deep deep love that might never go away. You feel like you should be angry out hate him but you don't have it in you. My divorce was final in September. I left him just over a year ago, I didn't want to but he was already gone. It gets easier eventually but it still so hard. And just when you think you're officially starting to heal, you crash. But it's been a year and I don't really have bad "Mike days" anymore unless I'm really stressed out. Hang in there. And I'm sorry you're going through this. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01185060110107830847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4113636052418203640.post-61089318894310882222013-01-28T13:07:08.062-05:002013-01-28T13:07:08.062-05:00Hi there,
What a great post and I'm sorry I wa...Hi there,<br />What a great post and I'm sorry I was blind in knowing this was going on. Having gone through this I know the internal challenges facing you now and in the road ahead. But remember, moments like these are what makes you realize true-ness in your life. From friends to feelings...you will discover a you, you never knew was inside :-) I love you and hope we can stay "family" xoxoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4113636052418203640.post-364551756632323632013-01-28T11:02:22.119-05:002013-01-28T11:02:22.119-05:00I'm so sorry Sara, try not to blame yourself t...I'm so sorry Sara, try not to blame yourself too much though. You are a wonderful person, and we all make mistakes and have our own set of issues. Try not to look at it as failure, but simply a journey. I believe that we are often pushed in uncomfortable and strange directions in life. Sometimes those life directions pull us down and sometimes they rekindle the fire and passion we have for life. I believe in you, and I believe you'll be the second type. I'm glad you are already looking at the positive things, you have a brand new fluffy companion and the big wide world is all out there for you to grab! I'm pretty sure I remember you telling me that you wanted to open up your own coffee shop one day, and maybe that's the direction you can head in now! The things we thought we would never have to do are the hardest though. Be strong and brave (I know you have both of those wonderful qualities!) and if you ever need somebody to talk to, I'd love to offer a set of ears. <br /><br />Love you,<br /><br />AshleyAshley Hollowayhttp://www.ashleyholloway.daportfolio.comnoreply@blogger.com